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  • January Mindset

    Posted by Robert Mosteller on 1/14/2019 9:00:00 AM

    By choosing to focus on the positives, we put ourselves on a path toward extraordinary success; choose the negatives, and we embark on the potential path of disappointment

    Attitude is Gratitude

    Our students are continuing to learn about the 7 Mindsets through our advisement program this year.  These mindsets are strong, transferable skills and approaches intent on growing purpose, resilience, and action in the minds of our students.  If this program is to be a success, it is important that these lessons extend beyond the walls of our school.  With that in mind, each month I will be sending a letter to communicate the topics students are learning about in advisement along with ideas that you can use to reinforce the investment we are making throughout the school year.  During the month of January, students are learning about the “Attitude of Gratitude” teaching us the importance of seeking the positives from every experience and being thankful for all that we have.

    Through an “Attitude of Gratitude” mindset, we learn that we can use the positives or the negatives of our lives as the foundation on which to build. By choosing to focus on the positives, we put ourselves on a path toward extraordinary success; choose the negatives, and we embark on the potential path of disappointment. 

    The 4 critical components of Attitude of Gratitude:

    1.  Treasure Yourself – We create the wonderful lives we want by harvesting the great things within us. There are often things we don’t like about ourselves, but we must recognize that we’re made of far more wonderful things than not. We need to recognize our own worth and see our uniqueness as something to treasure and develop so we can live the extraordinary lives we’re meant to live.

    2.  Be More Grateful – We all have the choice to focus on the good or the bad in life. If we focus on the positive things, they expand and guide us down the path to our dreams. If we spend our time in regret, jealously, and anger, then the negatives multiply and we likely find our dreams sidelined and our goals unattained. We must simply be more grateful, reflecting as much as possible on the good things in our lives as well as those that are coming to us.

    3.  Thank it Forward – One of the best and quickest ways to feel better and become happier is to do something for someone else. The easiest as well as one of the most powerful things we can do for someone is express gratitude for who they are and what they mean to us. Thanking someone provides two wonderful gifts: it makes the other person feel good, and makes us happy at the same time.

    4.  Elevate Your Perspective – People who have achieved great lives point to moments of great adversity and challenge when they learned a critical lesson or built the essential skill that allowed them to be successful. Knowing this, we understand why it is important to seek the positives from all situations, even those that seem completely negative. When we do this, we get better, learn, and grow in essential ways that help us to live richer and fuller lives.

    Top 4 Do's and Don’ts at Home:

    1.  Do practice gratitude every day, even if it’s only to tell your children how grateful you are to have them in your life. If you have a journal, write down the things that you’re thankful for every day, both the big and small. Verbalizing what you’re grateful for is a powerful way that both you and your children can keep from taking things for granted and remain thankful for all that you have.
    2.  Do say “thank you” regularly. Showing your gratitude to neighbors and teachers with a kind note or word is one small way to show your appreciation for them. Teaching your children to do the same is important in helping them to feel gratitude for the lives and friends that they have.
    3. Don’t let the bad times be all bad. Try saying to yourself, “I can’t wait to find out what good will come from this!” This helps you look at all situations as leading toward positives in life.
    4.  Do write a thank you note to your children for what you appreciate about them. For example, you might write and leave a note that says, “Thank you so much for picking up your room today without me even asking. You are an incredible kid and I am so thankful to have you in my life!”

    Dinner Time Discussion:

    •  Before beginning your meal, ask everyone around the table to share something for which they are grateful.
    •  Ask probing questions.  Instead of accepting your child’s response at face value, ask, “Why?”, and don’t take “I don’t know” as a response.
    •  Ask: “If you could do one thing to help someone else, what would it be?”

     

    Important Upcoming Dates:

    •  Winter Wonderland Dance – 2/9/2019 from 6:00-8:00 PM
    •  5th Grade Parent Night – 2/12/2019 @ 6:00 PM
    •  All Pro Dad – 2/13/2019 @ 7:15 AM
    •  Lanier Educational Foundation Casino Night Fundraiser – 2/23/2019 (details)

     

    Warm Regards,

     

    Bryce Fulcher

    Principal

    Lanier Middle School

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  • December

    Posted by Robert Mosteller on 12/4/2018 9:00:00 AM

    Accept responsibility for your actions.  Be accountable for your results. Take ownership of your mistakes.

    100% Accountable

    Dear Longhorn Families,

     Our students are continuing to learn about the 7 Mindsetsthrough our advisement program this year.  These mindsets are strong, transferable skills and approaches intent on growing purpose, resilience, and action in the minds of our students.  If this program is to be a success, it is important that these lessons extend beyond the walls of our school.  With that in mind, each month I will be sending a letter to communicate the topics students are learning about in advisement along with ideas that you can use to reinforce the investment we are making throughout the school year.  During the months of November and December, students are learning “100% Accountable,” a seemingly appropriate mindset as we approach final exams.

    The 100% Accountable mindset teaches the importance of being responsible for our own happiness and success. Being 100% Accountable means deciding not to be victims of the past and recognizing that the future is not predetermined, so our lives are what we choose in the present moment and each one moving forward. This mindset is about the importance of breaking down barriers and taking responsibility for our thoughts and actions. It also allows us to free our minds and focus our energy on taking the critical steps towards our goals.

     

    The 4 critical components of 100% Accountable:

    1.  Own Your Life – If we give away the freedom to act and think for ourselves, we’re more likely to become victims. This happens when we allow the opinions of others and their actions toward us to matter more than our own feelings toward ourselves. We must begin the process of owning all aspects of our lives and actions, and take responsibility for every moment and situation. When we do, we prevent others from asserting control of our lives.
    2.  Overcome Limiting Beliefs – The greatest limitations in our lives are those we place on yourself. These come in the form of fears, excuses, and what we call the counter mindsets. It is these limiting beliefs that distort our belief systems and drive ineffective or destructive behaviors. We can, however, reprogram our thinking to overcome and eliminate limiting beliefs. 
    3.  Focus Your Energy – The people who get the most out of life do the most with the 24 hours each day that we all have. These individuals spend more time doing things that give them energy and use this energy to learn and accomplish what’s most important to them. We must constantly restructure our time in order to get the most out of the moments we have. When we do this each day, we take powerful steps toward reaching our dreams.
    4.  Grow Through Life – Life is about learning, and it’s a process of continual growth. We must recognize this and seek growth from all experiences, good and bad. When we do, we are constantly getting better. We must also pro-actively develop our strengths and build new skills. As we do this, we truly become 100% Accountable and capable of creating the lives of our dreams.

     

    4 Things You Can Do at Home:

    1.  Model the 100% Accountable mindset at home.
    2.  Encourage growth in everyday life.  Some of our routines and tasks are productive and make us stronger, while others have no benefit, weaken us and may be counter-productive to living a great life.
    3.  Discourage the blame game.  When you blame or resent others, you focus a lot of time thinking negatively.  This prevents you from doing what you need to do to live your dreams.
    4.  Be solution-focused and not excuse-driven. Our greatest limitations are those we place on ourselves. When you make excuses, you are beaten before you even try.

    Dinner Time Discussions:

    • Don’t settle for one word responses by asking, “How was your day?”
    •  Instead ask, “What was great about your day? What was the most difficult part of your day?”
    •  https://thefamilydinnerproject.org/fun/rose-and-thorn/

     

    Important Upcoming Dates:

    •  Heat for the Holidays – Deadline to donate NEW . . . . Dec. 14th
    •  Final Exams – 6th Grade: 12/13-14; 7th Grade: 12/17-18; 8th Grade: 12/19-20
    •  Winter Break – 12/21/18 - 1/2/2019
    •  Back to School – 1/3/2019
    •  All Pro Dad – 1/16/19 @ 7:15

     

    Warm Regards,

     

    Bryce Fulcher

    Principal

    Lanier Middle School

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